March 13, 2012
Hello to Everyone out there in the Blogging World –
Over the past weeks and months, I’ve been bouncing around to a few different places, sometimes with internet connection, and sometimes not. Today, I do have internet connection.
I thought I’d say a quick hello while I could today.
(that’s my version of a quick hello, ha ha ha)
Ok, so with all silliness invited, I also wanted to introduce you to a good friend of mine. Her name is Maizy, and she has been bouncing around with me lately. Not many people have met Maizy yet. She’s a little shy, and she doesn’t really get out much. But Maizy is a kind-hearted Maizy, and maybe with a little encouragement, she just might be willing to spend a little time with you.
I was hoping that maybe just maybe Maizy could share some of her aMaizyng Maizy adventures with you, especially with some of the DID kids of the world. There are always lots of fun things to learn and share with kids who have seen too much pain and sorrow and troubles in their young lives. Maybe Maizy can become a helpful and comforting friend to those kids too?
Would you kids like to meet Maizy and hear stories about how she gets through her tough times in life? Would you like to hear some aMaizyng Maizy stories?
I think I can encourage Maizy to share some of her life experiences with you all.
Before she comes out here on her own, Maizy wants you to see her with her friend Emma.
Do you remember Emma?
Have a little peek at a few blogs back. Emma has had her picture in here a few times already. Emma Girl is very sweet and enormously precious to me. Emma knows. She isn’t fooled by anyone.
As far as I am concerned, Emma is one of the most beautiful pug dogs in the whole wide world. Anybody that’s ever heard Emma knows that she snorts and sneezes and snitzles and schwizchles with the biggest variety of puggy noises. Emma has a wonderful heart and she is a very very smart puggy with a great big vocabulary, and she can sniff out the very best in anybody and everybody. And Emma knows Maizy.
A picture can show it better than I can, so I’m including some pictures of when Emma first met Maizy. As you can see, Emma gave Maizy a very good look and checked her out carefully. Emma is not easily tricked and she only friends up with those that are safe and good, and have kindness in their hearts. Even when kids don’t know that they have good hearts, Emma can sniff out the good in them. Emma knows. She knows that lots of kids are good kids.
You can see in the pictures that Emma gave Maizy a good thorough check. Emma was not sure at first, but she looked and sniffed and woofed and looked and sniffed and woofed some more. Finally, Emma decided Maizy was a pretty good Maizy, that Maizy.
Emma knows that it is important to check very carefully when you meet someone new. She knows to not rush head-over-heels too quickly when first meeting someone. Good, solid relationships take a lot of time to build and develop, and the super-speed attraction approach is often not so safe, and/or it ends up crashing too quickly with emotional overload and overwhelming intensity. Emma knows to not say too much, and she knows to not disclose too much personal information when first meeting someone. She knows it is important to make sure someone is not pretending to be someone that they are not, and that often takes a fair bit of time to figure all that out.
Emma says not to rush into building any kind of relationship with anyone! She says it is more important to ask more questions to the other person than it is to tell information about you. The more you know about the other person, the better you can decipher if he or she is a safe person or not.
It’s important to be careful, and to know that there are people out there in the world that are not going to be kind to you. Please protect yourself and guard your little ones carefully while you are getting to know who the other person is.
So with all those self-protection cautions in mind, here’s Maizy.
Copyright © 2008-2012 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation
November 28, 2009
It’s Thanksgiving weekend here in the US, and besides the wonderful traditional family meal and pleasant times with my kids, this time frame reminds me of something else.
Discussing Dissociation has been up and visible for nearly one year now. Yep, in a few days, it will be a year already!
Wow. Where has the time gone??!!!
There is truth to the saying that time flies, or is it because time flies when you’re having fun … or maybe I’m just getting older, lol.
Anyway, I’m being silly, but I do want to say today how much I appreciate all of you that have been readers here at this blog. The number of faithful, returning readers has been utterly amazing to me. If you look back through all the pages, you’ll see well over a thousand excellent comments from a wide variety of the readers. Wow! The input you all have made in this blog has brought it to life and given it a life-filled energy that I certainly couldn’t create on my own.
For the way each and every one of you have contributed to the positive, educational nature of this blog, I sincerely thank you. I truly appreciate your involvement, your thoughts, your comments, your questions. You’ve helped to make this little site a safe, comfortable community for dissociative trauma survivors. I think it’s a job well done, and once again, I do sincerely thank you for your part in this process. Writing a blog wouldn’t be nearly so fun without hearing comments from the readers! You all rock!
Many of you have questioned why I started this blog in the first place. The original reason is not as mysterious or worrisome as some of you may have thought. It’s a widely stated and highly recommended common practice for therapists to use blogs for marketing purposes. Marketing experts recommend to write what you know about, and to respond to the comments you receive. Blogs get quickly listed in search engines, and they are an easy, economical way for your target audience to get to know you, and to see what you do, and to become more familiar with the work that you do. It’s a simple as that. Check the blogosphere for blogs by therapists. You’ll see that most therapists write about their fields of work the same as I do.
I just happen to know about a very specialized topic – dissociative identity disorder. And my readers are a very distinct but wonderful population – dissociative trauma survivors or trauma therapists. (There aren’t very many of us out here — it’s no wonder that we are congregating together!) And yes, practically all of my blog articles have been very specific to DID, not that the topics couldn’t also apply to other populations, but the point of this blog is to “discuss dissociation” so I do tailor my articles to being about dissociative disorders, and the DID population. There’s no mystery there, lol. I think I’ve said that pretty upfront.
But something much bigger has been happening besides my having found a very effective marketing tool.
With all the positive sharing and support that has been created here, this blog has provided a deep sense of hope and healing for so many people. Having that absolute knowing that others are progressing along their healing journey as well, many survivors don’t have to feel so very alone. You might learn things from my articles, but you can also learn from each other, the same as I learn from you as well. It’s a wonderful circle of positive, helpful information, and that in itself is priceless.
Building a sense of safety, knowing you are not alone in your struggles, and learning from others who have been there too provide emotional foundations that so very crucial to healing and can augment your therapeutic process. Please remember, this blog is in no means a substitute for actual therapy, but it does provide a lot of educational support for survivors working on their own healing, or for therapists learning about working DID / MPD.
Again, you all have immensely helped to create that healing, informative atmosphere, and I am grateful for that.
We have to create and protect places of healing.
Even survivor-led blogs such as the truly incredible BTC blog have become targets for destruction by the “hazing / flaming / insaniacs” of the world. Do we really want the haters and gossipers to take over and ruin all the places of healing and support? How sad is this?!!
I know that you know there are predators and perpetrators out there in the world. For some of you, your abuse stopped years ago. For some of you, you are still smack dab in the middle of fighting your abusers. Some of you are being hassled and manipulated by internet predators (whether you know it or not), and some of you are safely away from any direct attack from anyone. No matter where you are in your life, there are abusers and predators out there in the world, (including those wolves in sheep’s clothing hiding within the dissociative population itself), so the importance of having safe retreats amongst all the danger and destruction is more important than you might realize.
Those of you that feel the loss of BTC’s blog can understand what I’m talking about. It’s a real shame that abusive people continue to ruin the good places and run off the good people. I think that is a tragedy. But it happens.
- Are you one that sits back quietly, doing nothing even though you see others destroying places of support?
- Do you believe the lies and negative gossip spread about helpers and healers?
- Are you so angry from your own abuse that you are willing to take that out on people who have helped you?
Surely the survivor population can see through the manipulations of abusers. You are adults now – you can start seeing through the tricks that are being played out there. Please remember to think for yourself the next time you hear some negative hogwash about someone who has dared to be a helper / healer. You can take a stand against that.
Complacency only allows abuse to continue.
Trauma survivors, I encourage you to ban together in protection of your valued and positive healing resources.
So many of you grew up without any safety or comfort or support. You learned to pull deep within yourself or to block out the world entirely. You survived it alone.
But it doesn’t have to be that way anymore.
Most of you are still learning about how important and helpful it is to have places of safe connection, genuine relationship, and gentle bonding. It may be scary to be around people, but building a positive, healing, trustworthy community is a way of overcoming the need to be isolated in order to avoid abuse.
Again, I challenge you to protect your places of healing. Protect those that are your helpers. Stand firm around your leaders that fight against abuse.
Don’t fall into the trap of complacency or destructive participation.
Your healing resources are depending on that.
Kathy Broady LCSW
Copyright © 2008-2010 Kathy Broady LCSW and Discussing Dissociation