May 19, 2012
Maizy’s Go Away or Fly Away Kind of Day
Maizy is a quiet little cow. She talks when she wants to, but that’s not very often.
Maizy doesn’t like noise, and she doesn’t like crowds, and she doesn’t like bunches of people everywhere near and around.
Maizy isn’t that sure about people – she only likes one or two people, here and there. And even then, she’s not completely sure. People are not her favorite.
Mostly, Maizy likes her own space.
She likes to feel safe, and she likes to have plenty of distance away from the threat of anyone coming near. For Maizy, space equals safety. She knows she will be ok if no one is nearby.
Maizy likes anything that reminds her of unruffled freedom. She likes to watch birds fly in the air. She likes to watch horses run across fields. She likes to see puppies play and ducks swim in ponds and butterflies fluttering around.
Maizy also likes to watch kites flying in the sky. Kites up in the sky are very peaceful. They blow back and forth, floating and looking, and enjoying their own space up and away from everybody else. Kites get to see all kinds of things, and they get to lift up and away from the noise of the world. And kites come in all colors, and all shapes, and sizes, and there is no such thing as a bad kite or a wrong kite. Kites are just fun. Maizy loves kites! 
But today, Maizy has a dilemma. Oh dear, oh dear.
Maizy heard about a kite day. On this kite day, all kinds of kites were going to go to the park and fly high in the air. There were going to be box kites, and round kites, and home-made kites, and tiger kites, and fish kites, and heart kites, and circle kites, and bear kites, and mermaid kites, and turtle kites, and rainbow kites. There were so many different kites coming to kite day that Maizy could hardly decide which ones to watch! Maizy was so excited!
A Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day all day would be perfect!
So what was the problem?
The problem, for Maizy, is that the kites came with oodles and gobs of people. People! Yuck! Maizy is not a fan of people! Maizy wanted to see the kites, but she didn’t want to see the people! If only the kites could fly by themselves over to the kite park…
Oh dear, oh dear. What was Maizy going to do?
Instead of feeling happy, Maizy was feeling very cranky. She was upset. She was angry. She did not want those noisy scary people to mess up her wonderful Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day!
She stomped her foot.
“Go away, people!”
She stomped all four of her feet.
“Go away, go away, go away, go away! Don’t mess up my wonderful Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day!”
But the people did not go away.
In fact, more and more people came. More and more of them!
Maizy had to stop and think. She couldn’t make all the people go away. As much she may have wanted to, she just wouldn’t be able to do it. There were just too many of them, of all shapes and sizes. There were as many people as there were kites. Maybe more! Those noisy people were just everywhere!
Would they bother her?
Would they hurt her?
Would they leave her alone?
Would they be kind to her?
Maizy had to make a decision. She really wanted to go see those beautiful kites, but she would have to be super duper brave to be near all those people. Hmmmm….
What was a Maizy to do…
Ok. Well. Hmmmm….
She thought and she thought and she thought.
A Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day all day really would be a really fun thing to do. 
She really didn’t want to miss it. She had already missed out on too many fun things because she was afraid to be around people.
Hmmmmmm…..
Maizy finally decided she could be brave.
Maizy knew that while some people had been very mean to her in the past, she knew that some people could be nice.
She knew that she couldn’t always believe the worst about everyone.
Maizy knew that a whole bunch of people would probably walk right past her, and not really interact with her at all. Maizy liked that. She liked to be ignored by strangers. She was plenty happy for people to stay involved in their own lives and to leave her alone. Maybe just maybe she could quietly watch the kites from her own little spot, and not mingle with anyone else. She wouldn’t have to look at anyone. She wouldn’t have to talk to anyone. She could just look at the kites.
Maizy knew she didn’t have to miss out on fun stuff just because she didn’t like to be around people.
If she stayed mostly quiet to herself, and if she was polite to anyone she decided to speak to, Maizy figured that there was a very good chance that she could navigate her kite party without any big problems happening.
Maybe, just maybe, she could go see the kites and not be bothered or hurt by anyone at all.
And maybe just maybe, Maizy could have fun at her wonderful Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day!
Maizy by a circle kite.
Maizy having fun by kite feathers.
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Maizy enjoying her wonderful kite day!
Maizy with a green kite!
Maizy watching a bear kite!
Copyright © 2008-2012 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation
kiyacat said,
May 20, 2012 at 12:10 am
We like your kite story. we’ve been crying for days and days and this made us both cry and smile cuz things are so whackadoodle right now. we really liked the pictures of Maizy Cow and the kites. We spent part of the day with our wolf and Sarge the german shepard – all the same size as Maizy. We like the feather kites the bestest! and Maizy with the diamond rainbow kite. Earlier today we went to the park with a friend and didn’t like the people either but they didn’t bother us with our friend there. One person even said good morning to us – she was very happy, it was nice. we didn’t see any kites, but lots of birds and we came home with duck and canadian goose feathers. tonight we made something like a kite – it is 2 mandalasthat we colored, gluded back to back with stuffing inside and on the strings above and below there are beads (and goose feathers). maybe it is an indoor kite.
kiyacats
Pilgrim said,
May 20, 2012 at 8:34 am
We wish we did be there to see the kites
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We be like maizy we dont like pepol ether.
But we like kites. We wish we culd fly away on a kite. Rel far.
ohevet said,
May 20, 2012 at 5:00 pm
OH I can so relate to Maizy too. I remember once wanting to go to this place where my favorite kind of music was going on. It was something this group did every month and I’d wanted to go for two years. Finally, I decided to. I got prepared. Dressed up. Hair and make-up…the works. I got in the car and drove over. I got to the place, burst into tears (tears almost never happen with us) and drove straight through the parking lot all the way home.
Another time – I was asked to attend a wedding. It was going to be an event – a beautiful one. Again I got dressed to the nines, hair and make up all done. Got directions, printed the map – navigated through city traffic for an hour trying to get there. Drove straight through the parking lot crying, dizzy, nauseous, chest pain…the whole bit.
YESTERDAY – a dear dear friend’s baby shower. I was apprehensive, everyone was, but this was for our friend and everyone loves this friend. She’s so special and has a beautiful baby boy coming in July. I was bringing a big gift from several people that was going to be the center piece. TERRIFIED, I packed it in my car and drove over. I did it. I got out of the car, went and knocked on a stranger’s door and did the whole baby shower thing. It was FUN.
A TOTALLY FUN DAY!!!!!!!
*hi-fives to Maizy moo (my nickname for Maizy the Cow – hope she doesn’t mind)* WE DID IT!!!!!
No body hurt us, no body did bad things, no body scared us or anything. Every one was nice and we even had cake!!!
It was still kind of weird because I sort of felt like I was watching the whole thing and participating but not really??? Maybe someone was helping that I don’t know about, but I was sure glad they were there.
YAY FOR BEAUTIFUL KITES!!!!!
Pilgrim said,
May 21, 2012 at 5:41 pm
i bet mazy wuld like to go up in the parashute with me when we go in the fall
i bet she wuld laff and laff and laff wile we fly down to the earth.
i like them kite fethers there so cool.
from TUCK
ibesammy said,
May 22, 2012 at 4:57 pm
dis gud storey mis kafky
Mona said,
May 26, 2012 at 12:05 am
A lovely story and pictures, thanks Kathy
beingemily said,
May 29, 2012 at 10:31 pm
dis is gud fanks ples link ar blog ok
http://emilyandothers.wordpress.com/
Insomniac In said,
September 1, 2012 at 1:33 pm
we bin liking dis Story!!
Can u pleases do more stories for littles, we liking dem stories wiv da pictures da best
We in dis system not so liking bin called Parts coz we got sum who is like parts but many who is likes Peoples!
ohevet said,
September 6, 2012 at 4:39 pm
Post! Post! Post! Post! Post!
Kathy Broady said,
September 11, 2012 at 5:35 pm
Hi little Insomniac –
Thanks for writing to me – I am happy to hear from you.
You know what? I wrote a whole new post after I read what you said, so thank you for the inspiration!
Yes, I have a new story I’m going to post soon – I’m working on it already, so hopefully, you’ll like it too.
Thanks for reading, and for looking at all the pretty pictures!
Warmly,
Kathy
Insomniac In said,
October 10, 2012 at 4:13 pm
Hellows
We bin liking da new story dat you post about Jasmine da doggy. Sum of us like doggies. We bin finking we wud like da mommy doggy Jasmine. She looks nice for cuddles..
Some of us peoples here like foxes too and der was foxes pictures!!!
it so nice dat you wrotes dat parts/people thing too
bye byes
Flower (one of Insomniac’s crew)
tenhill said,
December 26, 2012 at 1:28 pm
How do I get brave enough to go around people like Maisy did? I feel too scared.
Kathy Broady said,
January 1, 2013 at 8:58 pm
Hi tenhill,
Welcome to the Discussing Dissociation blog.
Thank you for reading about Maizy.
And to answer your question briefly…. start with very small steps. A few minutes here and there. Keep a further distance, and gradually get closer to others, but be willing to do things out there just on your own first. Don’t expect too much too soon, and do a lot of people watching to see what others are doing. Let yourself be brave enough to gradually do what you actually want to do when you are out there in public. Do lots and lots of little steps, giving yourself lots of time to feel safer, stronger, braver. It all adds up in the end, no matter how long it takes. Give yourself permission, and go for it, bit by bit.
Happy New Year to you — I wish you the best.
Warmly,
Kathy