December 31, 2010
Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!!
Hi Everyone –
How was 2010? Was it a good year for you? Was it a rough year for you? Hmmmm…. Do you remember what kind of year it was for you? (lol, teasing. 
That’s a joke for dissociative people, lol).
Everyone, quick – check inside. Do they know how your year was?
In all seriousness, if you are unsure or blank, try asking your inner people what the year (or any particular timeframe) was like. What do you hear when you ask them? Do you hear a bunch of responses? Are your insiders remembering things? Are they mentioning things that are different from what you remembered?
Your insiders will remember bits of history that you won’t remember. Incidents that occurred while they were out may very well be contained only in their memory instead of yours. This is why having good internal communication is important. The more you know your insiders, the more you are able to speak with them, or listen to them, the more you can know what has happened in the whole of your life. Talk to your insiders regularly (about the simple, everyday type things) so when you need to know something more specific, you will have the relationship and rapport needed for them to be able to share their history with you as well.
As for 2011…
I wish the best for you.
I wish you peace in your mind.
I wish you moments of quiet, and hours of genuine relaxation.
I hope you will build friendships with your insiders.
I hope that you will find the courage to look behind those blocks.
I hope that you have more kindness and acceptance than you have ever had before.
I challenge you to talk to each and every insider that you have.
I challenge you to reach out to others and help someone else in their healing journey.
I challenge you to improve your health mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
I encourage you to be gentle, and to remember the power of compassion and understanding.
I encourage you to make the world a better place, no matter where you are, or what you’re doing.
What eleven things do you wish and hope for?
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I hope that 2011 is truly a HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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And from Emma – she is sending the warmest of thoughts your way…
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Emma the pug sending warm wishes to you.
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From Oliver – he’s celebrating the New Year with a straw, as only silly Oliver can do…
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Oliver with a straw, this time. Always something...
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From the snuggly puppies, sleeping in a pile, when they were still about two weeks old.
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Seven snuggly sleepy puppies, just over two weeks of age.
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Are you smiling yet?
Here’s hopes for the happiest of New Years!!
Enjoy!
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By:
Kathy Broady LCSW
Copyright © 2008-2010 Kathy Broady LCSW and Discussing Dissociation
kiyacat said,
December 31, 2010 at 11:25 pm
“What eleven things do you hope for?”
1. I am working on the affirmation “I am a magnet; I FEEL healthy, vital, alive, happy and prosperous! I attract these things!
2. My therapist is having me work with a product called “Alpha Stim” that is significantly helping reduce depression and insomnia. (training is available for therapists). T knows us enough now to try things on herself first to demo them. then the kids are like OK OK lemme see it!
3. I hope to believe that my present ‘interesting’ living situation is truly a ‘launching pad’ into where i want to be. And to continue to be grateful that I am no longer in my abusive living situation – no matter how hard it gets here.
4. I hope to see an end to our depression and anxiety in the next 2 years.
5. I hope to truly want to live this life and find my place in it.
6. I hope to finally find something in life i enjoy, that also brings me money.
7. I hope to continue honing my art skills in drawing and painting.
8. I hope to continue to excell in therapy as I have been doing lately (since May).
9. I hope to have more understanding around compulsive eating and find a way to curb it.
10. I hope to “finally see the light at the end of the tunnel” and have it be REAL and GOOD and a source of life.
11. I AM continuing work around setting and *maintaining* proper boundaries with my mom/abuser. And that feels good. Hard – but good.
HAPPY NEW YEAR, Kathy!!!! May you also have a great year, and thanks for all you share on here from your hard work and experience!!!
Kiycat
kiyacat said,
December 31, 2010 at 11:28 pm
Oooooooooooh and the screen “snows” in the direction of my cursor!!! We are thrilled about that
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Nansie said,
December 31, 2010 at 11:37 pm
Hey Kathy…Happy New Year to you too! I was reading your post and when you got to the part about how my year had gone…I had all these parts inside reflecting off of one another. It is so hard for me to answer questions like this…I can eventually but it takes a while. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I would like to be cuddling all of those puppies at the same time!
inviziblepain said,
January 1, 2011 at 6:48 pm
Happy New Year Kathy Broady!!!!!! Yes, those doggies and puppies made us smile (especially the puppy laying belly up in the middle). Things are too tangled inside right now to make my hopes and wishes list but I will soon….
Mona said,
January 1, 2011 at 8:38 pm
A beautiful message. Thank you.
pilgrimchild said,
January 1, 2011 at 10:25 pm
we dont member most of this year . we watched the olymics. there was a new baby. we member therapy somtims. then was the thanksgivng parade. then christmas. now its today.thats all.
11 things.
1.jodie hope to lose wate.lots.
2. caroline hope we gona eat helthyer.
3. we hope jadie gona colm down.
4.we hope we can move closer to work. but that wuold be a miricle.
5. we hope are back gets fixt so it dont hert so mutch.
6.i hope i can talk out loud.
7. we hope are sister can be happy.
8. we hope missy and the bully be nise.
9.we hope caroline go back to collige.
10.we hope are T get a easyer life
11. we hope we can be happyer
happy new year kathey
from claire
shilchedd said,
January 2, 2011 at 5:50 pm
I guess we are working on these things for 2011
1. To take better care of our self/selves than always worrying about others.
2. Try to get past the pain of past therapy experiences, and work with the helpful, atuned, and good t we now have.
3. To work on better and healthier choices for each person inside. To communicate with each.
4. Try not to be afraid of the deep and horrible pain that we so often feel–to talk to T about these pain experiences and learn how to deal with things.
ShilChedd