Comments on: Is Your Life How You Want It to Be? http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/is-your-life-how-you-want-it-to-be/ Thoughts from a Trauma Therapist.... Mon, 16 Nov 2009 07:18:47 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: castorgirl http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/is-your-life-how-you-want-it-to-be/#comment-127 castorgirl Sun, 04 Jan 2009 08:06:58 +0000 http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-127 Hi Kathy, *Sigh* three years ago we told our first therapist we wanted to be "fixed" by Christmas... A few of us joke that we didn't specify which Christmas, or what we meant by "fixed"... We're now trying to be more realistic... we want to know more about each other and what we do now and have done in the past. Probably our biggest area of work will be to gain internal stability. We separated early last year from an abusive relationship so increased our external stability. This means we now have the energy and focus to work on other areas. It also means we have to be careful of holding onto things just because they are some of the few things we find comfort in - sometimes we find comfort in some of the negative patterns and behaviours... Possibly just because they are familiar and predictable??? Take care... Sophie :) Hi Kathy,

*Sigh* three years ago we told our first therapist we wanted to be “fixed” by Christmas… A few of us joke that we didn’t specify which Christmas, or what we meant by “fixed”…

We’re now trying to be more realistic… we want to know more about each other and what we do now and have done in the past. Probably our biggest area of work will be to gain internal stability. We separated early last year from an abusive relationship so increased our external stability. This means we now have the energy and focus to work on other areas.

It also means we have to be careful of holding onto things just because they are some of the few things we find comfort in – sometimes we find comfort in some of the negative patterns and behaviours… Possibly just because they are familiar and predictable???

Take care…
Sophie :)

]]> By: Kathy Broady http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/is-your-life-how-you-want-it-to-be/#comment-121 Kathy Broady Sun, 04 Jan 2009 00:17:25 +0000 http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-121 Hi Strangename, Thanks for writing. It sounds like you have a lot of very good goals for 2009, and you certainly have a lot on your plate. You have mentioned a lot of important areas, and I wish the best for you in your healing journey. Thanks for posting. Kathy Hi Strangename,
Thanks for writing. It sounds like you have a lot of very good goals for 2009, and you certainly have a lot on your plate. You have mentioned a lot of important areas, and I wish the best for you in your healing journey. Thanks for posting.
Kathy

]]> By: strangename http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/2009/01/01/is-your-life-how-you-want-it-to-be/#comment-116 strangename Fri, 02 Jan 2009 02:32:49 +0000 http://discussingdissociation.wordpress.com/?p=126#comment-116 Wow-alot to think about here! The past 2.5 years I have been dealing with a verbally and on a few occasions physically abusive husband, the result of a TBI (work accident). We are married 20 years. So...for 2009 with the help of my T, I am going to maintain my personal boundaries, take responsibility for only myself, work on control issues, make myself more emotionally available to those close to me, stop avoiding conflict and deal with it, and extend my friends network. I will more than likely have to make some relationship decisions, which I will need to rely heavily on the support of my network to get through. For 2009 I hope to gain some inner peace and feel good about myself and the decisions I am going to make. I am scared to death as I feel more in control and more out of control at this point in my therapy. So for therapy in 2009, I will need to lay more of myself out there, so T can help transition me and give me the tools I need to look back with no regrets, no matter what decisions I choose. Another tough year in store...but hopefully more manageable! Wow-alot to think about here! The past 2.5 years I have been dealing with a verbally and on a few occasions physically abusive husband, the result of a TBI (work accident). We are married 20 years. So…for 2009 with the help of my T, I am going to maintain my personal boundaries, take responsibility for only myself, work on control issues, make myself more emotionally available to those close to me, stop avoiding conflict and deal with it, and extend my friends network. I will more than likely have to make some relationship decisions, which I will need to rely heavily on the support of my network to get through.

For 2009 I hope to gain some inner peace and feel good about myself and the decisions I am going to make. I am scared to death as I feel more in control and more out of control at this point in my therapy. So for therapy in 2009, I will need to lay more of myself out there, so T can help transition me and give me the tools I need to look back with no regrets, no matter what decisions I choose. Another tough year in store…but hopefully more manageable!

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